Hello World
Back by popular demand, with a word to the wise on sexual hygiene and hair in this blog.
I am Randy De Troit and I AM in the adult business, but not in the traditional sense and don’t consider myself a star. I am in the adult industry as my job, but I don't do mainstream adult, never have, never will. I produce real video with real people, not actresses; but at the same I give the people what they want. I just thought I would add my two cents and see it stacks up to yours. I also teach a class in adult production on how to get into the adult industry as an small business owner.
First things first. What makes sex sexy is what works for the individual, then the couple; it starts at home: love thyself, not what’s published in a magazine designed to create sensationalism to sell copies. Articles are written for those who aspire to be hip by those who want to sell mags to them. Not reality. Chemistry is defined not by what happens in a test tube at UCLA, but in fact how a man perceives a woman and TOWA (follow my tweets); from smell to touch, to sight and taste, to biological needs.
All those so-called trends/fads are just that! If a man is turned on by a woman, goes to reason everything else follows suit and the same is true TOWA. Some woman, odd as it may seem, get hot when a man has his face unshaven, but will entertain a shaved pubic area, go figure! Take it from the pros who perform sex for a living; experience all forms of variation in way, shape and form with multiple partners. Although I’m not advocating everybody get in front of the camera right off. Although that can be a super turn-on for couples to watch themselves.
If a woman feels comfortable and sexy(ier) to shave her spot, so be it, more power to her. Having hair there doesn’t qualify or validate her mindset maturity level either, only in a biological sense. Before puberty one cannot grow hair, but a maturing women can choose. So why does she have to be perceived as childlike when she clearly is mature in every sense of the word? It’s just a look and feel and physically her vulva is more sensitive anyway and we could all use a little more sensitivity right? Hey try it, if you or your man doesn’t like it, grow it back.
It really has nothing to do with looking like a child who hasn’t grown hair yet. That’s in the mind of the beholder. It’s about what works for you. And in this day and age, there are surely enough obstacles in the challenge for healthy ongoing relationships not to have one more thing become one. There is nothing illegal, immoral or wrong about any kind of role playing between any two grown persons. That includes shaving each other erotically. So don’t judge others who do, we are not put on earth to judge others unless you are tricked into appearing for jury duty.
Good personal hygiene is essential in every relationship for the individual and for couples. Usually nobody wants a funky partner, although that can present a certain level of turn-on. I personally do not appreciate a woman smelling 100% like she came ‘out of the bottle’. The hair on her head can smell nice, fine. Although I don’t revel in her smelly armpits, there can be a happy medium. I don’t want to gag on perfume or worse, when I perform cunnilingus on a woman either, ingesting all kinds of chemicals I didn’t read on the label.
Some prefer hair on women’s legs, most do not, some men prefer women that are more hairy (hirsute) in odd places like on their butts, armpits, etc. But we don’t give a second thought about expecting a woman to always shave her legs and underarms. But hey, it’s a big wide world, celebrate our differences.
So shaving hair or at least trimming is more hygienically aware and respectful of your partner than not. It’s not always about us; and for none other than the fact that is it healthier to be washed and clean-shaven, didn’t say bald did I? Germs don’t like soap nor can they cling to otherwise oil soaked hair follicles.
I have also shaven many women and know from experience that the labia are very fragile and must be shown extra care. A cut there is different than on a flat surface, takes a lot longer to heal and is more prone to infection than other areas. That said, don’t feel scared, just proceed with caution and take it slow.
So when actually shaving the labia majora, the issue is similar to the labia minora in that the surface is not flat, like a face or arm, so one has to be extra cautious in this area. The razor cannot lie completely flat so it is much easier to cut the area. Although the minora doesn’t have nearly as much hair attached if any. Sometimes the skin has to be stretched in a fashion for the enabling of taking the hair off with the razor. The mons area of pubic hair is not difficult as it’s it more flat in nature. You ladies have more experience shaving anyway because the legs present a good challenge in surface area and getting hard to reach areas.
In our culture, men are traditionally perceived as more virile, masculine and a good specimen if they are adorned with grand flowing locks. Clothes or hair don’t make the person. People are defined by their character, their heart and their attitude. We all know that men think with the wrong head anyway, but there is something sexy to baldheads, anybody watch movies lately? From Bruce Willis, to George Forman to Ving Rhames to Yul Brynner, and all the wrestlers in between demonstrate sexy very well. Doesn’t make them any less manly. Think about it!
And guys, don’t sound like whiny little girls about accidentally nicking your perceived mastermind down there, it couldn’t happen in a 100 years, even if you wanted to, or were drunk when attempting the shear experiment. The closest shot you would get would be a little knick at best so get over that argument. I have had many women shave me down there and they were always more paranoid than I and wanted to be extra careful but I gave them the same argument I just gave you, and they relax and do a great job whether on or off camera. All these scenes are evidenced online.
My MO is to shave my pubic hair as it can get very thick, long, tangles, and retains offensive odors more readily, the hair follicles are where the funk starts and travels south from there. It’s just a natural fact, even on ones head, the northernmost one. One has to apply soap in some form to keep the lice out if for no other reason. And who wants a bug sitting on top your head. I’ve heard of hitching a ride but come on. Hair is where the sweat glands dump if you haven’t noticed, and if you’re wearing a tight work uniform, they share it.
I even started shaving my armpits and it works for me. Less hair to douse with chemically laden deodorant.
So remember when in doubt use your clout.
1) Clean is always the top rung
2) Next is whatever else you apply afterwards: cologne, perfume, talc, fragrance of any natural type, according to personal preference and allergies.
3) Trimmed hair is style and preference
4) And shaved smooth is the ultimate because then there is very little or no maintenance other than #1
So guys, get busy and shave it down there, start with shaving crème, a sharp razor, preferably new if its your first time and begin with short slow strokes always downward. Don’t shave against the grain, you’re looking for trouble and unsightly bumps that could be conceived as something tragic.
Ultimately all I profess is to try something new, you might just like it and never go back, and you might hate it and never try it again. All I’m saying is you’ve got nothing to lose and everything to gain. And you don’t even have to thank me in the morning, just take two!
And don’t forget to read my new book, ‘Letters to My Girlfriends in Prison’. It’s a laugh a minute.
